Bridal Party - Bridesmaids

What is a bridesmaid?

Your bridesmaid is the person that you would like next to you as you take one of the most important steps in your life. She should be a close friend or family member of you or your groom. She is NOT your slave, pincushion or pseudo party planner.

What are the jobs of the bridesmaid?

- Helping to direct flow for the guests, in case there are stragglers
- Encouraging your guests to sign a guest book, if you choose to have one
- Assist you with various tasks, some of which may be unpleasant (think about it: have you figured out how you are going to use the bathroom in your dress?)
- Dance all the silly dances that the MC/DJ/Band play. Things like the ethnic dances,
Macarena, YMCA... well, you get the picture
- NOT to be your personal wedding coordinator
- NOT to yell at your vendors if you are unhappy
- NOT to be your photographer or videographer
- NOT to be the time keeper and keep everyone on schedule

How to select your bridesmaid's dresses?
- No matter what happens, the bride is always the most beautiful person in the room. There is no need to put your bridesmaids into an atrocious dresses that they have to pay for in the hopes of making them look worse, and you look better. Remember, these are people you love.

- Unless you have a cookie cutter bridal party, chances are your closest friends are not all the same shape, size and height. There are very few dress styles that can fit everyone. So, please do not try to stuff your plus sized or busty bridesmaid into a tight, strapless number that she will spend the rest of the evening pulling up. There are not enough Spanx in the world for that.

- Select a designer, a fabric and a color, then let your bridesmaids select dresses that fit them.